Dating sites aren’t the only ways to find love. Here’s a roundup of the best ways to meet your match—from swiping apps to bars to… Yelp.
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1. Interracial dating
One-third of all Americans identify as non-white, and that number is growing. If you don’t want to be that lonely single black man, there are tons of online and offline ways to meet up with white people. Start with Match.com’s Black Singles Club, where you can browse through profiles and take dating quizzes. If you’re more into speed dating, check out our guide to finding a date with Chapped, one of the best speed dating apps.
2. Online dating
The most commonly used online dating sites have come under fire in recent years for their lack of transparency and for systematically blocking certain groups of users. This means that users with a history of domestic abuse, those on the LGBTQ community, and ethnic minorities are much less likely to find their matches here. In an effort to clean up their act, OKCupid rolled out tools for blocking users and individually modifying their profiles to help weed out abuse offenders. A few other sites to explore are Plenty of Fish, eHarmony, Match.com, and Zoosk.
3. Gay bars
Some of the best bars are also some of the most welcoming. Gay bars are great for meeting people in a casual setting, and many of them have events and activities as part of their monthly lineups. If you want to find the right bar to take you to your next date, check out The Pride Guide to Chicago, San Francisco, or New York City. If you’re in the market for a variety of bars rather than just one, try this list of the best gay bars in NYC.
4. Facebook and other social media apps
Facebook is a great place to start a conversation with people you meet through social media apps, especially if you’re looking for love. These include events such as OkCupid’s Speed Dating, and The Grind, and are a great way to get your foot in the door if you’re new to online dating. If you want to find a friend to date, try looking at your friends’ lists and sorting out the match-makers. Check out the list of the best dating apps.
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Looking for the right person in 2014 is much more challenging than ever. The Internet is full of so many options that it’s hard to know where to start. And the fact that many people opt to string out their search gives them more time to sift through the different superficial things you’re not allowed to ask on a first date.
Modern Dating: Questions and Answers
The good news is that, as tech has advanced and grown smaller, you no longer have to spend hours on a first date just trying to figure out how you’ll get along with this person. Not only can you bring your laptop, smartphone or tablet with you, but you can also ask these seemingly awkward questions right there on the spot. The more involved you are in your first date, the more you open yourself up to getting to know someone. And the more you get to know someone, the more information you can get about their personality and potential for a relationship, that you would otherwise have missed. Not to mention you end up spending less time wondering if you’ll like someone, and more time actually getting to know them.
The other good news is the Internet. There’s now a place on the Internet you can head to, and ask your questions there—where the answers are usually going to be much more honest than you would get from talking to someone in real life.
Ask Them Questions
1. What are you looking for in a relationship?
2. Are you looking for a relationship right now?
Asking what a person is looking for is a good place to start—even if you’re not looking yourself. Because, while you may not be actively looking for a relationship now, you still want to know if this person is looking for one, too. And if they are—good job on getting to know someone so quickly, buddy!
3. Are you in a long-term relationship/will you be in one? If not, how long you looking for that to happen?
This is especially important if you’re a more experienced person in the dating world, and the other person has only been on a few (or even just one) dates. You want to make sure that they can handle being in a relationship for a long time, so they can avoid disappointment and heartache.
4. How do you approach dating?
It could just be as simple as a question. But you can also learn a lot more, and be sure to keep things more casual.